Growing up in a small town in the Midwest, brands and labels were viewed much higher than actual fashion. Especially when it came to purses. The ever-popular Coach was obtainable if you visited an outlet, but still showed everyone you had that label. Michael Kors was also highly coveted amongst the cornfields and was a slight step up. But for me, the true epitome was Kate Spade.

Kate Spade said everything all the other designer labels stated and more. They were sophisticated and classy, but also bright and fun. It didn’t matter how weird things got (have you seen the $1,300 elephant bag?) because it was Kate Spade. On top of everything, Kate herself just always seemed so cool. She built her dream business from the ground with her partner to the point she was able to sell it for billions so she could raise her kids in the greatest city of all time. This is literally the life I would write for myself if I could.

Yet despite having my idea of the “ideal life”, I’m sad to say Kate took hers.

This news shocked and saddened me immensely, and my heart goes out to her family who’s experiencing something I can’t even imagine. I’m not usually one to write things like this, but this situation especially spoke to me on how you never really know what’s going on in someone’s life.

If someone asked me if I was happy, I would genuinely and without a doubt say yes. But if also asked, “Would you be happier if XYZ happened?” I’d respond with of course! If my career was more on track, if I had a larger financial cushion, if I lived in a nicer home in a nicer place, yes I would think I would be happier.

We’re always ready to “be happier”. That next job promotion, that next relationship, whatever that thing is around the corner- that will make me happier.

Don’t get me wrong- it’s so important to have goals and aspirations and something to work towards. But it’s equally, if not more important to be able to truly recognize your emotional state. Are you happy? If so, revel in that. Tell those around you how much you love and appreciate them. Take that trip. Go out of your way for someone else. Appreciate the items you worked so hard for, and the items you’re working to replace.

And if you’re unsure of your answer, make a change. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. I urge you to get help or to at least talk with someone if you’re feeling depressed or even just down. Even if it doesn’t feel like it now, I promise you things will get better.

Thank you, Kate, for always being an inspiration.

“She who leaves a trail of glitter is not ever forgotten.”